Fraternities/Sororities are a big DAMEH!

Just in case you do not know, I strongly discourage the youngsters to be part of any fraternity group.

Ang sabi ko sa mga kawani ko sa FB:

Kailangan pa bang maging masokista para lang matawag na “cool” at “astig”? Siguro naman, alam niyo na ang mga downsides at saka mga peligro ng pagsasali sa mga frat orgs na ‘yan. Komikadonians, I discourage you to join fraternities if you are an undergrad. ‘Yun na!

Guys, hindi cool ang pagiging frat brother/sorority sister. Kailangan mo maging masokista at dumaan sa prosesong… sadista–kung saan ang pagpapahiya sa’yo ay isang REQUIREMENT!

One girl, the smartest in my class, spent the whole day washing her hair with detergent because a senior brod “shampooed” her with an entire can of red floor wax. She told me they felt her up too, sticking their toes between her legs while she was blindfolded. “But it’s okay,” she said, “because they’re like my kuyas (older brothers). They’re just initiating me out of tradition. Walang malisya (no malice).”

I tried not to laugh at the logic of that.

My roommate Ting* came home one morning and showed me her legs. The skin on her calves was tender, hot, and completely black. She said that her brod whipped her with an electrical cord until he was satisfied that her legs turned bruised and dark. She said it was okay because it wouldn’t leave a scar. And this was just for a vet school org!

Putang Ina! Pisting yawang… ASDFGHJKL! Papano naging isang accomplishment/achievement ang pagiging masokista, para lang maging isang frat member?

Sa totoo lang, ang pagiging frat brother/sorority sister ay para lang sa mga malalakas ang loob and at the same time, sa mga makakapal ang mukha. Kung mahina ang loob mo at hindi ka ma-diskarteng tao, ang pagiging frat member ay dapat mong iwasan–IN ALL ASPECTS!

Mas pipiliin ko pang mapahiya sa loob ng klase dahil lang nagalit sa akin ang aking propesor, regardless kung law professor man siya o hindi. At least, may aral kang napupulot. Eh ang pagiging frat member, may mapupulot na aral nga ba!?

Already blessed with scholarships in the University of the Philippines, these neophytes still felt insecure, still felt the need to latch on to some group, and were convinced they would still be nothing even if they studied hard and got their degree.

Bakit hindi na lang sila makuntento sa scholarship nila!? Kung ang yumaong Kristel Tejada nga, masaya siya kapag nag-aaral siya at naka-enroll sa UP-M, pero ang hindi makatarungang STFAP ang mismong dahilan kung bakit siya nagbigti (in a broad sense). Dito, alam niyang hindi niya kailangang sumali sa frat group para lang makilala o maging “cool.”

#RealTalk: Most of the time, kapag sasali ang isang tao sa isang fraternity/sorority, kadalasan, insecure siya sa buhay niya–like, may kulang sa ganito-ganyan. Doon na papasok ang “sense of belongingness,” or the sense to “fit in” just to be called “cool.” Mas cool ang pag-aaral, pagiging masipag at magkaroon ng maraming kaibigan, mapa-frat member man o hindi.

At heto pa ang MALUFET:

I still don’t know if it’s worth accepting physical assault and risking one’s life, especially at the young age of 17 or 18. Even in the tamest of orgs, there was always a point where initiation rites went too far, where a Muslim would be forced to drink alcohol, and where girls were sent to “entertain” their brods.

Aba eh, mas malupit kung pipilitin mo ang Muslim na kumain ng karneng baboy. Or both alcohol and pork at the same time. Para bang, binastos mo na rin ang kanyang taimtim na paniniwala’t pananampalataya kay Allah.

In my own dorm’s initiation rites, boys were made to pull down their pants and “fuck the wall.” As a tall, strange girl, I was blindfolded, doused with water, yelled at, and harassed. The other girls got derogatory names written on their skin with markers, toothpaste smeared on their hair and faces, and some even got felt up.

Hindi cool ang initiation rites. Mas BARBARO pa ang initiation rites na talagang against sa human rights kesa sa hindi pagiging frat member. The worst initiation rites siguro para sa akin, ay ang pag-angkin ng virginity ng isang babae. As in, huhubad siya, no bra, no panty, basta fully-naked tapos pipilitin siyang magpa-RAPE sa isang manyakis/rapist na initiator blah blah. HAHAHA! ‘Yun talaga ang BARBARIC! Pero huwag sanang mangyari ‘yun. Like, swear!

I guess tormentors think it’s all fun and games, and of course, it’s tradition – the perverted kind that school officials, dorm managers, and even parents condone year after year, until some kid dies. Then they wash their hands of that “accident,” issue a press release, but change nothing.

Naturally, ganyan ang ginagawa ng mga frat members. Nagmamalinis at saka DAMAGE CONTROL, tapos wala namang pagbabago!

Kailangan pa bang pumatay ng isang neophyte para lang siya ay maging frat member!? Kailangan bang ipahiya ang isang neophyte para lang matanggap siya bilang frat member? Panghuli, kailangan pa bang i-shampoo ang buhok niya gamit ang floorwax, utusan siyang kantutin ang pader, pati uminom ng ALAK kapag Muslim siya!? Nasaan ang katarungan doon!?

Sa totoo lang, ayoko namang makita ang mga taong may tattoo with the letters sa kanilang mga kamay. Kung ang initiation rites ay magpa-tattoo, baka dragon pa! Haist! Buti pa maging yakuza, astig pa, cool pa, pero sa Hapon, outcast ka. Aww…

Moral of the Story: Delikado ang pagsali sa mga frat! Kung recognized by the school naman, isip-isip din ‘pag may time! ‘Yun na!

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